I will also add that when it comes to so called triggers this sort of thing is really FUCKING HUGE one for me (all caps...it's important). I have spent much of my life surrounded by those who professed to be seeking their authentic self or finding a way to live a so called right life. And I witnessed all sorts of selfish, rude and sometimes outright cruel behavior because of it.
"Depression? There is no such thing as depression. You just need to think more happy thoughts man. Stop being so negative..."I freely admit that I come to this sort of thing with more than a bit of baggage BUT this has to be one of the most condescending bits of love advice I've come across. It isn't instructions on how one can attract a so called "conscious/evolved man" so much as a step by step breakdown of why you will never, ever, in a billion million years attract such a man.
"Oh come on honey, what do you mean No? You can't deny that you are a sexual being. Let your inner goddess run free...embrace the phallus." (I am truly not making this up)
"Why are you crying? I was just being honest and authentic. I'm sorry if being told a long list of your flaws and faults as I see them causes you pain. You really just need to start doing the work..."
I went on a bit of a rant on facebook...:
That's right you can't attract a "conscious/evolved" man because you are ugly on the inside. Forget outside beauty standards! You have not done enough inner self work to be worthy. In fact you are so crazy fucked up you aren't even aware that such an amazing state of perfection with a penis exists!!!!
"The reason for this is that women can turn a blind eye to a conscious man as they are afraid that they may not live up to the same standards a conscious man lives to, or it may be that some women aren’t fully aware of how to recognise a conscious man when they meet one.
Due to a conscious man standing strong in his own truth, he can make others feel as though they have come face to face with all of their insecurities. It can feel as though the conscious man holds out a mirror so that other people see their reflections clearly and vividly"In other words you don't see him because when you encounter such a man you are so repulsed by the reflection of your own flaws and inner faults that you simply turn away. Like the elusive unicorn you can't see him. approach him or touch him unless you are as pure as he. And sadly, my dear, you have not yet achieved such a state of being.
It is okay. Take a deep breath. Ground and center yourself. I am here to tell those of you who are worried that somehow your failings have caused you to miss out, that you indeed have nothing to fear for like the unicorn the "conscious/evolved" man as described in this article is a myth. He isn't real; and if he were he'd probably be so damn tired from maintaining the strict regimen needed to maintain this state of awesomeness that he'd never leave the house. No human being on earth, aside from possibly Buddha and Jesus who apparently didn't date, have attained such levels of perfection.
It is also possible, as suggested by a friend, that due to the deep sense of self loathing and neurosis women have lived with for oh, the past several centuries, that the "conscious/evolved" man never found his mythical match and has simply been bred out of existence. And though we might mourn the loss of this legendary creature, "I'm okay with it, because the alternative seems exhausting."
One final note. I am not completely dismissive of the new age movement. I use techniques like mindfulness and meditation to cope with my anxiety. I have used mantras to help me keep focus and I've done my share of labyrinth walks. However, articles like this to me only serve to make people feel less than. We've enough less than that we deal with every day (less pretty, less smart, less successful, less rich, less worthy, etc). Healthy self esteem is a good thing, confidence is a good thing so is happiness, but for many people, myself included, and for a variety of reasons, these are sometimes elusive states of being. To make someone feel that the reason they can't find love or companionship is because they are 'less than conscious or evolved' is damaging.
Each of our journeys are intensely personal ones, who is anyone to judge where in that journey we are supposed to be? We are all muddling through here, doing the best we can and we could all stand to have a little more compassion for where ever someone is on their path...man.