Sunday, March 6, 2011

Why I'm not married...

Today I read this article by Brienne Walsh, "An Open Letter to Women Who are Telling me it's my Fault I'm Not Married" 

I've reached a point where I've realized that if I am going to have anyone in my life, they are going to have to fit.  I don't mean they have to change to fit my life, I have spent far too much of my time trying to make myself into something my partner wanted simply because I did not want to be alone.  I would not want some one in my life who was trying to do the same.  No, I mean that from the very beginning they would have to fit.

I live a very full life.  I'm busy with performance projects, work, school and an active social life.  I don't want to give those things up to be with someone.  I won't give those things up to be with someone.  So should a person of interest come along, they are going to have to be a person who finds woman with a rich, full life appealing.

Despite the advances of women's rights, and all of the time and effort we put into creating lives that are fulfilling to ourselves, there still remains the expectation that we will adjust or give it up to fit the lives of our partners;and worse, so many of us do it without question.  No one even has to ask.  We simply adapt...

Thank you Brienne Walsh for this article.  You said so many things that needed to be said and I applaud you.

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