tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3797166485783616212.post1391704366053080969..comments2023-04-22T12:36:18.256-04:00Comments on Spinster Jane: The spinster gets a bit Zen...Spinster Janehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07885521019895319562noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3797166485783616212.post-76308744563486427182011-07-01T15:27:46.557-04:002011-07-01T15:27:46.557-04:00Just happened upon your blog via Simone Grant, and...Just happened upon your blog via Simone Grant, and I am loving it! You truly are awesome. This is a message I wish more of us could internalize and actually believe, because it's true! I just happened upon this exact same ephiphany, like yesterday and even though I am only single-ish, the relationship I am in leaves much to be desired. After stewing and stewing for HOURS about how he doesn't call enough, doesn't make me feel important, blah blah etc. etc. it just hit me like a ton of bricks - that's not his job. That's MY job. His not calling is a reflection of him and his sucky communication skills, not my worth to him. My importance is up to me to determine, not him, my mother, by best friend, boss or dog. Once you start framing things that way, and telling that little voice of doubt to STFU things get a lot easier. No more agonizing over what someone else did or didn't do. Now, the trick is to keep this attitude going until it becomes ingrained. Glad I found the blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com